Parenting during COVID
So we have spared our three-year-old the trouble of online classes during this pandemic and have started homeschooling him until the COVID situation is in control and the physical classrooms are back in action.
The past two weeks of teaching him at home were more arduous than I had expected. It was like watching a drama with a lot of unpredictable plot twists.
So how did I prepare myself?
- Did I watch any Parenting movies? No.
- Did I write Parenting Blog for self-motivation? Maybe Not.
- Did I meditate and exercise daily? Sometimes I did, but that was for entirely other reasons.
- Did I write and practice the counter-responses for future arguments with my little one? These little ones are super unpredictable. So my answer is a big fat no.
Instead, I followed my instinct and avoided indulging in a Power game.
Now, you may ask the context of the Power Game. And how on earth can I consider my three-year-old to be a contender of this so-called game?
What as parents, we forget to realize is that even a three-year-old, is a person of his own. With every passing day, he is not only learning about the world around him but also understanding the fact that he is an individual with a unique personality, capable of doing things more than his knowledge. With this, he realizes the value of Power, the ability to hold an upper ground in any situation. And then the parents become his first opponent.
Let me tell you, it’s not a pretty picture, at the end of this argument. It always ends up in us losing our last bit of sanity or our kids howling their hearts out.
Hence, to avoid such a situation is always a smarter move.
Few suggestions from varied sources that worked out well for me:
- Daily schedules: A proper plan for the day, which includes work, playtime, study hours, family-time, everything in a balanced manner, is very important.
- Content Matters: We adults usually quit watching shows or reading books midway if the content is not engaging. Then think about the kids. How would they feel if you give them the same activity for an entire week? Customize it as per your kid’s interest. Change the pattern when you get the slightest inclination of boredom.
- Teaching Strategies: There is a reason for the existence of the designation of a Teacher. Their ability to groom these tiny monsters into proper human beings and suitable for society makes them admirable. We might be brilliant in our respective professions, but teaching a child is no joke. So, as we all have now involuntarily taken up this role, let’s try our best. Work on teaching techniques that will make the little one believe that these study activities are enjoyable.
- Common grounds: We need to keep our eccentric parent egos aside and understand that we are not here to control our kid’s life. We need to help them realize that we are their allies.
- Q&A: We need to prepare ourselves to answer countless questions, which sometimes might be completely off-topic. They may even challenge our response if it is not according to their understanding.
- Finally, be kind and understanding to the little one because always remember, for them, this is just the beginning.
Having said so, I agree that there will be days when none of these ideas would work. Don’t be too hard on yourself. We are not perfect, nor are these strategies. So when the little ones refuse to cooperate, declare that day as a Holiday, and believe me, you would be their instant favorite.
I mean, who doesn’t love a holiday!